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Dear Virginia:

Again I want to thank you for your books, Understanding Cross Dressing and The Transvestite and His Wife. So much of what we had read on the subject of cross dressing did not have much class or merit. Other than knowing that others had the same urge, little valid information was gained. However, Penthouse (or Forum) did offer a service in that it mentioned your book. Your books were a breath of fresh air. They were professionally done and satisfied both my wife and me intellectually and spiritually. Jesus Christ is the center around which our world revolves-we are Christians and love the Lord very much. But this area (need to cross dress was) something that always presented a stumbling block, especially for me. A mature Christian should be constant, in and out of season, yet I was constant- ly "driven, yet repulsed" by this desire. I would buy, wear, swear off, discard and buy again. And the most puzzling aspect was knowing that all my moods were genuine. Your book helped me put the puzzle pieces together in a way that made sense and does not contradict my Biblical Christian understandings. The Bible says God made us male/female; but the gender expression should be open to both sexes, since they are social inventions. The Bible says homosexuality is wrong because it violates God's intention that women love men sexually and vice versa. Not men with men; or women with women- because that is a distortion of His original good intention. In my desire to capture femininity, I sometimes would find myself mentally impersonating a woman during coitus with my wife. In effect, estab- lishing a "lesbian” relationship which I didn't want. But now with your insights via your books, I understand that I am one person, with both masculine and feminine aspects-thus I am not changing sexes, but expressing one aspect of me that hasn't been expressed much in the last 35 years. Because I now see more of my wholeness, I have no desire to compartmentalize it(a "male" name for me and a "female" name for her). I will just be me-dress and speak and think and feel as I wish to feel at the moment and relish it. Now I decide whether or not to do something solely on the basis of whether I want to do it rather than "is it masculine or feminine?"

I understand now some of the whys and wherefores of my per- sonality-my strengths and weaknesses-my love for the feminine. And this understanding has added so much to our marriage. A whole new area of give and take has been freed. We love each other very much and work hard to be all to each other that we possibly can. She,

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